Forget flowers – these Valentine’s Day activities for adults are a more personal and meaningful way to spend your Valentine’s Day this year!
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Valentine’s Day was easy growing up. Just make or buy Valentine’s for your class (and include candy if you’re lucky.) No parties to plan or dates to prepare for. As an adult, Valentine’s Day (and everything else) can take a little more thought and planning.
But with this list of 14 Valentine’s Day activities to help you plan your February 14th, all you have to focus on is finding the perfect outfit. Add more love and creativity into your Valentine’s plans with one of these cute activities. You can adapt most of the items on the list whether you’re spending Valentine’s Day solo, with friends, or on a date!
So if you are the creative type looking for a craft for Valentine’s Day or want something more low key like a cozy movie night, you’ll find an idea here to help you embrace this heart themed holiday!
This post is all about Valentine’s Day activities for adults to enjoy to bring fun, connection, and a little extra love into your day.
Heartfelt Valentine’s Day Activities for Adults
Get creative planning your February 14th this year with these ideas for cozy and creative Valentine’s Day activities for adults. Where relevant, you will also find my curated Valentine’s Day shopping guides on Amazon. These are created with love so that you can plan a meaningful Valentine’s Day date, party, or solo evening.
1. Send a handwritten Valentine’s Day card
It was so much fun giving out Valentine’s growing up. Writing a handwritten letter or card is like the adult version of sharing Valentine’s!
When is the last time you sent something in the mail to a friend or partner? We are so connected to our phones and technology that it’s nice to get something physical and meaningful.
Now, how do you write cute Valentine’s Day cards? It’s the message that counts so you can always use plain paper and envelopes! Personally, I love thrifting cute cards and envelopes for holidays. You can also find Valentine’s cards and letter writing supplies on Amazon as well if you prefer.
2. Try Valentine’s themed coloring
Coloring is such an underrated activity for adults. What makes this cozy activity perfect for Valentine’s Day is the number of Valentine’s themed coloring books you can find! There’s also something so satisfying for the holiday about filling in a page with pink and red colors and seeing it come to life.
I’ve already been getting in the Valentine’s Day mood and have been enjoying the adorable Cozy Coquette Valentine Coloring Book I found on Amazon! I love the coquette aesthetic and find the bold and easy Valentine’s illustrations so peaceful and romantic to color in.
3. Build a Valentine Lego set
Who needs store bought flowers when you can build your own? There are so many amazing Lego sets for Valentine’s Day. From flower bouquets to roses and more, there’s nothing cuter than building a love themed Lego set on February 14th.
Building a Valentine Lego set would be a cute date idea that leaves you with a keepsake to remember the evening by. But if you’re spending Valentine’s day with friends or on your own, it’s still a great way to get creative while enjoying the holiday.
4. Have a romantic comedy movie marathon
Rom coms are MADE for Valentine’s Day. My favorite romantic comedy Obvious Child with Jenny Slate actually takes place on Valentine’s Day (with a twist).
If you want to snuggle up with a pet or partner, have a romantic comedy movie marathon is a great way to spend your Valentine’s Day. I’ve included some suggestions below if you’re looking for the perfect rom com.
5. Do a tarot card reading for love and relationships
Tarot cards and oracle decks are great for deepening your connection with yourself and others. I love using tarot, not to “tell the future” but to get a feel for messages I need to hear in the moment.
Doing a reading about your love life or relationships is one of the best Valentine’s Day activities for adults to deepen your understanding of your connections.
Here are some resources for you if you want to do a Valentine’s Day tarot reading:
- The Best Valentine’s Day Tarot Spreads for Singles, Couples, and More from Writual Planner
- The Tarot of Love – Liminal 11 (I love the heart opener 3 card spread!)
- Relationship Questions for Tarot – Enter Moonlight (these are great questions to help guide your tarot reading)
- Valentine’s Themed Tarot Spread About Love – Sam The Cosmic Witch
- Valentine’s Day Tarot & Oracle Decks – Amazon
Now if you’re looking for a Valentine’s Day tarot deck, I think this Kawaii tarot deck is super cute. Not just because it’s pink but because the suit of wands is all sticks of candy! But I have other recommendations for Valentine tarot and oracle decks as well.
6. Get cozy and read about love and relationships
Relationships thrive when given care and intention. This includes with partners, friends, and yes, with yourself. The obvious choice is to dive into a good romance novel on Valentine’s Day. But you can also take the opportunity to read about your love languages, attachment style, or communication in relationships.
Valentine’s Day would be a great opportunity to get to know your love languages. Not the “typical” 5 love languages you may have heard or read about. One of my favorite books and resources for relationships is Speaking From The Heart: 18 Languages for Modern Love. (I have the e-book!) This book helped me realize that love languages are also for platonic relationships, and that one of my most valued love languages is accountability.
Of course, there are lots of books to cuddle up with this Valentine’s Day to get in the spirit of love and connection. If you’re going to spend February 14th reading, I hope you find a book that helps you embrace love and wholeheartedness.
7. Adopt a new pet (or give some love to your current one)
Adopting a pet is one of the CUTEST Valentine’s Day activities for adults! What better celebration of love than to give a forever home to an animal in a shelter?
I love this article about reasons to adopt a pet on Valentine’s Day. The notes about how a pet can help you overcome your commitment issues and become less self centered are hard to argue with if you’re single on Valentine’s Day!
Of course, if you’re not ready to commit to taking home a new animal, you can always symbolically adopt an animal (and protect endangered species) through the World Wildlife Fund. The WWF has Valentine’s themed symbolic animal adoptions. You can even get a cute plush depending on the package you choose!
And if you want your Valentine’s Day to be all about your pet or pets already at home, you can get them a Valentine’s themed treat or toy to spoil them! I’ve linked to my favorite Valentine’s items for cats and dogs below. Sadly as a cat parent, dogs have way more Valentine’s treats and toys to choose from! Does this mean I should go into business creating holiday toys for our feline friends?
8. Connect with a deep conversation
Did you know having more meaningful conversations can improve your wellbeing? Whether you’re attending a Galentines (or Palentines) event or going on a date, try having deep conversations this Valentine’s Day.
We all crave connection, but it can be scary and feel vulnerable to connect on a deeper level. That’s why I enjoy conversation starter cards and games. They take the pressure off coming up with the perfect questions to spark conversation and make meaningful conversations feel natural and fun.
My favorite are the Holstee Reflection Cards. I’ve used them with friends and on dates. I love how the format of the cards means you can choose more in depth or casual questions based on what you are comfortable with. I’ve also included some other conversation starter cards below!
Of course, you don’t need a deck of cards or conversation game to have meaningful conversations. You can always practice active listening, be present in the moment, and get genuinely curious to spark great conversation this Valentine’s Day!
9. Update your dating profile
You may not be looking for love, in which case, feel free to skip ahead to the next Valentine’s activity idea! But if you are seeking out a new partner or connection, use this Valentine’s day to update your dating profile.
When doing so make sure to be confident! Just because you’re not happily coupled up doesn’t mean you’re not deserving of love and happiness.
Here are some things to consider and to dos when refreshing your profile on dating apps:
- Are you happy with the dating apps you are on or do you want to try a new dating app? Don’t be afraid to branch out and try something new!
- Update your photos! Scroll through recent photos, especially if you’ve changed your hair lately. Choose pics you feel confident in or that would spark questions from people on the apps.
- Do you feel authentic in how you’ve represented yourself? Take a moment to think about what the most self loving version of you would say about yourself. See if you can embrace some vulnerability in sharing about your interests, hobbies, and what you are looking for.
- Speaking of, check in with your goals when using dating apps. Are you looking for hook ups or serious dating? Do you want to pursue monogamous or polyamorous connections? Sometimes we can do things out of habit like swiping on apps, so use this time to get aligned with what you’re seeking!
A refresh to your dating profile will make you feel more empowered and confident when seeking out new connections.
10. Play a love themed board game
Who says board games are just for game night? There are so many love themed board games for couples, friends, and even to play on your own! There are even queer friendly Valentine’s themed games like Love Letter: Princess Princess Ever After.
If you’re with a group for a Galentines or Palentines party, I highly recommend Boo-ty Call! It’s a laugh out loud seductive card game (adults only!)
I don’t need any excuse to play a board game, but I love themed board game nights! A Valentine’s themed board game evening is the perfect cozy and fun activity for Valentine’s Day.
11. Make a mixtape or playlist
We should listen to love songs more often. They remind us of the magic little moments can bring. Feeling butterflies when you have a crush, the comfort of being with a loved one, and the importance of self love.
If you’re seeking a romantic activity for Valentine’s Day, why don’t you make a playlist? You might not have a CD player in your car (or maybe you do!) but you can always make a digital playlist on Spotify or Apple music. Enjoy it yourself or share it! Music can be a powerful connector and help bring back meaningful memories.
Check out my recipe for creating the perfect Valentine’s Day playlist below!
12. Complete a crafting kit
Crafting is the ideal Valentine’s Day activity for adults if you love getting creative or just want to try something new! Arts and crafts are not just for kids. Crafting, crocheting, or painting can help you slow down, relax, and connect with your inner child.
Completing a Valentine’s themed craft kit will also give you a romantic keepsake to remind you of the memories you made this Valentine’s Day! I love craft kits because they contain everything you need to complete your art project. No overspending at the craft store on random impulse buys needed.
I’ve included my favorite Valentine craft kits for adults below! You can find cute crochet kits, romantic paint by numbers, pink candle making sets, and more to add a creative touch to your Valentine’s Day.
13. Bake heart shaped cookies or pink cupcakes
Baking is good for the soul…and the heart! Why don’t you try spending Valentine’s Day decorating heart shaped cookies or try a new recipe from a Valentine’s Day cookbook?
Baking is the ideal Valentine’s Day activity if you want your day to be, well…sweet! You can bake alone, with friends, or as part of a cute date night. And nothing says love more than sharing your favorite baked goods.
14. Have an evening of self care or journaling
You don’t have to make the most of every holiday. It is perfectly valid to take Valentine’s Day for yourself. This is a wonderful day to practice self care and self love. You could journal (feel free to pin these Valentine’s Day journal prompts), have a cozy spa night in, or go to bed early! The night is yours.
Self care can be practiced in so many ways. We can get so caught up in how busy our lives are, it’s easy to forget to process our feelings, show ourself self love, and get REAL rest. If you’re looking for how to spend this Valentine’s Day but you’re feeling exhausted, think about a night of self care! That can look like anything, so think about what feels restorative and nurturing to you.
Maybe it’s making a cozy nest of blankets and pillows. Maybe it’s watching your favorite show or getting into a good book. Or maybe you want to take some extra time for a long candlelit shower. The possibilities are endless! But remember that you deserve rest and care, and it’s not something you need to earn.
Now that you’ve read through this list of Valentine’s Day activities for adults, you can get started planning! Or be more spontaneous and see how you feel when February 14th arrives.
However you choose to spend your Valentine’s Day and whoever you’re with, remember you are lovable. Happy Valentine’s Day!
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